But that brings me to my first point: Simply put, there is no "perfect curriculum." And that's okay; we don't need perfection. In fact, one of the best things we can do as homeschoolers - for ourselves and our kids - is to give up the myth of perfection all together...with curriculum and everything else. Perfectionism kills joy and peace, and it simply doesn't belong in our homes.
Of course, we do need to pursue excellence. And, in terms of curriculum, that goal translates into finding a very good fit between our children's needs and the materials we choose to use. But how on earth do we begin the process of sorting through so many possibilities? I wrote a more detailed piece on this topic last year, but even that might seem overwhelming to some, so I wanted to break it down to just a few steps that would enable any new homeschooler to get started:
- Don't start by asking for ideas from homeschooling friends. As odd as that sounds - after all, networking among homeschoolers is really important - it's not the place to begin when choosing curriculum. Why? Well, simply put, what works beautifully for one family - given their overall situation - may be totally inappropriate for another. For example, I know a woman who followed several friends' advice to use a very solid, Christ-centered, textbook-style curriculum. The program is a good fit for the friends' kids, but it turns out to have been completely inappropriate for the woman's children. As a result, this family's first year of homeschooling was much more difficult than it should have been. The woman's friends meant well, of course, but they couldn't really know what would meet the needs of her children.
- Do begin with prayer. Take time before you launch into your research to start praying for wisdom and discernment - and continue praying as you go. Also, be sure to ask your spouse to pray for you regularly even if he's given you authority to make the ultimate curriculum decisions. God cares deeply about our homeschooling; I know He will guide you via His Spirit if you give Him that permission.
- Analyze your family from a homeschooling perspective, discovering your children's preferred learning styles, your preferred teaching style, and other important factors that warrant consideration. The best resource I know for tackling this task is Cathy Duffy's 101 Top Picks for Homeschool Curriculum. Ms. Duffy takes you through descriptions, checklists, and charts that will ultimately show you the general types of curriculum that will work for you. And, of course, knowing what will work enables you to confidently (without guilt!) eliminate from consideration a wide variety of otherwise fine material that simply wouldn't be a good fit for you and your kids. I wish I'd known about the book when I started homeschooling; if I had, I'd have saved myself tons of time, energy, and money.
- Go to The Homeschool Resource Roadmap to discover where the good options you get from the Duffy book stand on the common core standards (CCS). Ms. Duffy doesn't address the CCS in her book, and - from a very nice, face-to-face conversation she and I had - I understand her position. However, I believe that knowing a curriculum's stance on CCS alignment is a crucial next step. Of course, deciding how much connection with the CCS you want is a choice only you can make according to your personal convictions. But you do need to know where each resource you're considering stands in order to make a fully-informed decision.
- After paring things down via Ms. Duffy's book and The Roadmap's information, you'll probably have a rather short list of viable options. So from there you can visit the companies' websites to study online samples and enlist the help of your homeschooling friends. Specifically, ask if others have hard copy samples of the materials you're considering so you can see the books themselves. Or, if possible, attend a homeschool convention and study your remaining options there.
- If you've been praying through the process, I'm confident you'll have a good sense of peace at this point. Of course, you may not be 100% sure - as homeschooling moms, we are our own worst critics - but "almost sure" is really all you need. If you feel too much doubt, ask your husband if he'd be willing to share his preference among your two or three strongest possibilities. And, if he indicates an inclination toward one, trust that God is using your husband to help you and go with that. On the other hand, if he leaves it up to you, simply go with your gut. Remember: You've covered the whole process in prayer and you've done your homework so any of the remaining options will be a very good fit and you can trust that you're choosing well.
I realize that this process will still take a bit of time - but it really will bear beautiful fruit. You won't be choosing on a whim or trying to copy your best friend. You won't be picking based on a colorful website or slick advertising campaign. Instead, your choice will be grounded in meaningful research and faith, so you'll be able to move forward into your first term as a homeschooler with confidence that you've begun well.
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